Hello lovelies! If you’re single and desire marriage, I understand. I spent many years waiting and praying for Mr. Right, and I’m now happily married. In today’s post, I want to encourage my readers in their single season and share what helped me. Read on for Christian encouragement for single women.
Here’s how to make the most of your single season.
1. Recognize It’s Okay to Desire Marriage
Your desire for a husband and family is a good, God-given desire. There’s a reason that women are drawn to Cinderella stories and Hallmark movies. We desire to fulfil the role of a wife and mother since that is God’s blueprint for a family.
Sometimes, well-meaning people may try to downplay this desire. They may say things like, “When you stop wanting marriage and Jesus is enough, then you’ll find Mr. Right.”
But the truth is that a desire for marriage is a good thing. You don’t have to downplay it or try to ignore the loneliness and pain you may feel.
You can steward this desire biblically while being content in singleness.
One of the most helpful things I ever heard at a ladies retreat was, “Singleness can be a trial.”
During my single years, it certainly felt like a trial sometimes. I experienced loneliness, worry, and fear that maybe there wasn’t a guy out there for me.
Waiting for the right man can be very hard. But, God can give you the grace to wait well and wait with joy.
“And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness…”
When you’re single, it’s easy to think that life will truly begin when you get married. But, after marriage, life gets more complicated. You now have to balance what you want to do and what your husband wants to do. You both have input into how you spend your time, money, and resources.
As a single girl, take the time to do things you’ve always dreamed of doing.
Take that adult ballet class.
Go on a trip somewhere fun.
Decorate your room just the way you like it.
Learn to play a musical instrument.
Don’t live so frugally that you don’t enjoy your life today.
God has a purpose and a plan for you today. It doesn’t start when you get married.
In your single season, live fully and do everything with all your heart.
“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;” Colossians 3:23
3. Become the Woman God Wants You to Be
During your single season, develop a deep, personal relationship with the Lord. Spend time with Him daily in prayer, and get to know Him through the Bible.
Each day, seek to grow in your character. Practice putting others ahead of yourself. Work on your communication, forgiveness, and people skills.
As a single girl, learn to be a faithful steward of your time, talents, and resources. Instead of just focusing on fun, pray about your purchases. Prioritize saving for your future wedding and family.
If you build a strong foundation of godliness, you will be ready for the demands of married life.
“Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.”
1 Timothy 4:12
4. Find Joy in Serving the Lord
As a single girl, you have more free time and energy than you will after marriage. Use your time and abilities to serve in your local church.
Every church could use more helping hands…serving in the nursery, preparing food for fellowship meals, teaching a kids class, or helping with the church social media pages.
If you still live at home, seek to be a blessing to your family. Cook dinner a few nights a week. Help out with errands and chores. Take your mom out for lunch.
Also, seek to develop strong friendships with older Christian women. You can learn so much from their wisdom and life experience.
Look for opportunities to encourage younger girls and help others. Whether it’s a casual coffee date or an official Bible study group, you can disciple younger girls and teach them what God has taught you.
In this single season, take Paul’s words to heart. Your purpose today is holiness and pleasing the Lord.
“There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.”
1 Corinthians 7:34
5. Trust God’s Timing and Plan
When you see yet another engagement or relationship post on social media, you may be tempted to compare your story to theirs.
What if she got the last good guy? Why did she get engaged before I even met my Mr. Right?
Every girl’s story is different. You have to trust that God’s timing is perfect.
Trust me, when you are finally married to the man of your dreams, you will be SO glad that nothing else ever worked out.
Even if you feel lonely, don’t compromise your biblical convictions. It’s better to be alone with the Lord than engaged or married to the wrong guy.
You truly need to trust God with your story.
Do you believe that God is good?
Do you believe that He will give you the desires of your heart?
Then you can relax and trust Him. He’s got the right guy for you. It’s just a matter of time.
“But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.”
Isaiah 40:31
6. A Little Christian Encouragement for Single Women
During my single season, I often felt that I needed to do more and be more to earn a husband. That was absolutely not true.
God loved me just as much when I was single as when I was courting or engaged or married.
He wasn’t waiting for me to hit a spiritual benchmark or serve 10,000 hours in my church.
And He loves you.
Your worth is not determined by your relationship status.
You are not behind.
You are not forgotten by God.
He is writing a beautiful story.
Trust His wisdom.
And, in this single season, live fully, serve joyfully, and pray boldly.
Dear girl, don’t spend so much time dreaming about the life you hope to have someday that you forget to live the beautiful life God has given you today. Whether marriage is in your future or not, you have a purpose, you are deeply loved by your Heavenly Father, and there is much work to be done for His glory. Make these years count!
Let’s Chat:
Are you in your single season? If so, what has God been teaching you? And what part of this Christian encouragement for single women resonated most with you? Share your thoughts in the comment section!
